I *am trying* to wean Ilhan off the pacifier. With little success. He’s not a heavy-user; together with the bantal busuk a.k.a Bambam, he calls this duo TingBamBam. TingBamBam is like ebony and ivory or irama dan lagu and the absence of either will result in rather unpleasant bedtime encounters. The Bambam half is rather tolerable - after all, I know of individuals who are closet BamBam users well into adulthood. But the Ting part is rather unsightly and I’m not looking forward to spending money on braces later on.
So anyway, in a fit of tantrum on Saturday, Ilhan threw Ting and it went missing,. And since he knew it was him who caused its disappearance, he’s somewhat redha about it (haha!). every time he asked for Ting, I reminded him that he threw it away. And strangely he seemed fine with it. He did suggest:
“Nanti ibu bayar ting bayu tau“ (he confuses bayar with beli)
“Nak beli yang baru? Kat mana?”
“Kat kudai ah“
He went through 2 Tingless nights rather well. But erm…for today’s afternoon nap he snapped and cried for an eternity and I succumbed. Don’t ask me why. *sigh*. But we did make a deal. Ting only for naptime and bedtime.
I’m weak. I know.
These past 2 weeks too, I’m going babysitter-less since dah tutup account dengan Cik Ani on 31st November. It’s like a sneak-peek into the SAHM life that I’ll be plunging into…wait..it’s already begun! And I’m ashamed to admit that I’m really lousy at it. I’m not sure what it should be like - do I structure every minute? Must every activity be value-added? Is TV ok? Right now it’s wake up-bathe-breakfast-Kids Central/play-lunch-nap-play/books/tv-bathe-tv/books/play/bedtime. Play here is basically his blocks, crayon-drawing, Hot Wheels, Power Rangers, Bob the Builder set, tembak and arrows (ChiChi the moving target) etc. There’s the occasional swimming and going to the mall.
I must be the most boring mother ever. The other day his grandparents ajak pergi East Coast and he said “Tak nak lah…nak tengok tv”. ditto when farhan
Been surfing around for play ideas and playgroups in perth and I resolve to be more organized, involved, resourceful and fun come January.
Congrats for ditching the dummy (what they call pacifier here).
ReplyDeletehaha your cat is the moving target? the fat cat?
ReplyDeleteBravo Ilhan and he's one smart boy too! The pacifier for nap & bedtime pun jadi lah for the time being .. but Aunty you might have to try a different tactic to wean him completely off the pacifier next time since he already knows you'll give in
ReplyDeleteyou've won half the battle oredi with mr ting. hehehe. lousy? far from it lah unty. don't be too hard on yourself ya coz being a sahm is not ez. good luck!
ReplyDeletei remembered suhaila ever told me abt her colleague who were trying to wean off her 4-5 year old son off the milk bottle. they were once on a boat-trip to batam (for holidays la), and it was there when they had their "upacara membuang botol" off the sea, hahhaa.. lol.
ReplyDeletesince then, her son didnt ask for his milk bottle anymore... as in his mind (probably), he tinks that the bottle no longer exists. hehe.
There's also this procedure they called "cold turkey"... recommend this as a last resort if all else fails
ReplyDeletetry making a deal with him... i used to make a deal with the playgroup kids in the kindy i was managing all the time... e.g if they cry for mummy, i asked for a deal, if you don't cry for a certain amount of time, we get to do this activity ( which they cannot resist of course ) it works all the time!
ReplyDeletei know someone my age endearingly called bambam.. and sometimes, she brings her own bambam to school on a normal school day. haha.
ReplyDeletegd luck aunty.. it's not an easy time for llhan as i hv went thru the same too, in feb to be exact...just a matter of time to get used to it..
ReplyDeletebe careful not to spoil his teeth with prolong usage of dummy/thumb sucking coz gigi bole jongang...dentist recommend to use it until de age of 1yr old...i noe its heartbreak to see our child cries but g'luck cake...
ReplyDeletehope your kids grew up far from the dummy's clutches and other childhood vices :)
ReplyDeletehope fuuadi and nawal were never in the dummy's clutches, or any childhood 'vices' for that matter :)
ReplyDeletewell alya, i'm pleased to report and he seems to have forgotten to ask for it for naps and bedtime too..wish us luck!
ReplyDeleteyes, apparently this method where you make them see for themselves that they threw it away is recommended is most books. is naufal hooked on Mr Ting? selamat! :)
ReplyDeletethanks irah! tu lah..i tgk his bottom row of teeth mcm dah jarang-jarang and i thought it better stop NOW. hopefully your youngest is not tied to the pacifier :)
ReplyDeletealhamdulillah no...sejak my experience with da 1st(used dummy too), boy no.2 and 3 byk bergantung pd tempat yg lebih selamat..heehee~
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